Picture the scene. You've booked me as your wedding planner, you've told me what you want your wedding day to look like, I've promised you I'll create a mood board & colour palette for you, but what do I do to create these lovely bits of eye candy for you? Well I go to my favourite resources!
I've listed my top 5 below, but to be honest there are about 20-30 places I use to design & create weddings haha.
Pinterest - first stop for me is Pinterest, where I'll create a secret board & then comes the fun bit... Sourcing images that match your theme. Its really exciting to see a group of images right there in front of you, giving a little glimpse into just how special your day will look! I then grab all these images together & create a story book, mood board & colour palette to really get your pulse rating.
Rock n Roll Bride mag - I'm sure you've heard of this publication, if not then please do check it out! Rock & Roll Bride is the brainchild of Kat, it's the only specifically alternative magazine in circulation. Kat also writes a blog (of the same name, find it here: *click here* ) & even a book published. If alternative, quirky weddings are your scene then check her out, you won't regret it!
Rock My Wedding blog - Again, Rock My Wedding is brilliantly inspirational for anyone planning an unconventional wedding. (*click here* ) I love looking through everyone's amazing weddings & collating ideas & inspiration for my own couples.
Unconventional Wedding website - This website is PACKED with inspiration & wedding suppliers, all based around, well, unconventional weddings. (*Click here*) They feature real weddings, have wedding suppliers, ideas for wedding themes, a blog... pretty much anything you need to create a unique wedding.
My own wonderful wedding suppliers list - now of course, I wouldn't be ANY kind of planner if I didn't mention those who time & again pick up my calls, take my couple's & my ideas, & create AMAZING wedding days. My suppliers are without doubt the backbone to my business. After all, what kind of wedding would you have without suppliers to realise your dream? So a bit of a public THANK YOU to everyone of them who helps me daily
Right, now you've seen a bit if an insight into how I work, aren't you excited about us working together to design & create a wedding as unique as you are? Email or call & let's have a chat about just how quirky YOUR wedding will be. Bxx
OK so I look like I've not a care in the world here, but let me tell you - I've been where you are, with the frustrations of planning a quirky wedding.
When I got married in 2006, I arranged & designed the day how I & my husband wanted it to be. Some elements were more traditional (such as colour schemes), however other elements we wanted to inject our personalities into (including food, believe it or not we were one of the first couples to have sausage & mash for our wedding breakfast instead of traditional chicken or fish - it was LUSH!).
Sadly, some of our choices were met with raised eyebrows & sniffs of disdain by members of our family. In fact, we didn't get married in the venue that we wanted, because we were told in no uncertain terms, that some family members wouldn't travel that far (we had picked a beautiful hotel on the edge of Ullswater in the Lake District & at the time, lived in Hertfordshire).
So instead we compromised, Mr M found a beautiful barn in Burnham Beeches near Windsor, & we continued to arrange a day that we felt reflected our personalities.
Friends & family provided various elements, & we even chose every song that the DJ played (although now, having worked in the industry, I feel I should apologise to him for being SO controlling and effectively telling him how to do his job haha!) Even now, people will talk of our wedding and how relaxed it was.
No drama, no fuss, just good times.
Hindsight is a wonderful thing. While my wedding day was amazing, I can't help but have regrets that my original plans were shelved.
I don't want this to happen to you! It's your wedding day, and it should be done your way. Bugger what anyone else thinks, if it makes you happy then do it.
But just HOW do you do that? How do you put together a wedding that's full of your personality, full of your passions, full of love, full of your chosen guests, while trying to continue working & living your life?
The answer is simple - you speak to me.
I gained my wedding planning qualifications 5 years ago & have since helped countless couples, as well as winning an award for my services (4 times nominated, just a bit proud!).
I am passionate about creating & designing alternative weddings for couples looking for a stress-free and unique wedding. Because every couple deserves a wedding as unique as they are. So come on, what you waiting for? Let's get our heads together & create a day as unique as YOU are. Drop me an email on firstname.lastname@example.org & you won't regret it.
I've said it countless times before but... it's YOUR big day, so you should be planning things your way. But I do appreciate that's easier said than done!
Every person wants to be the one to give you that idea that you'd not yet considered, & to get a mention or credit on your wedding day. Bless their cotton socks for trying to help!
I guess it's a bit like when you're a new parent, & everyone has some "useful" (yep, I used the bunny ears) advice & opinions to pass on. Just nod & say thanks. Keep in mind that your wedding day is a representation of you & your other half. If a well meaning family member, friend or colleague has a nugget of information to impart, then that's nice, but you DON'T need to take it & use it if you don't want to.
You could say "thanks but that doesn't fit with our vision of our wedding. It's a great idea though!" How diplomatic am I??
As a planner, one of the most useful services that I provide is the admin (or, as it's affectionately known, wedmin). I respond to emails & messages on the detail of your wedding day. This takes a lot of pressure off you as, let's face it, you should be enjoying this part of your engagement - not stuck answering questions on why you chose this colour scheme & wouldn't such-and-such other theme suit better.
Another place you may find unsolicited advice is online wedding forums & Facebook wedding groups. In theory, & in fact the majority of the time, these are great places to bounce ideas around & have a semi-anonymous rant about the frustrations of planning a wedding. But they can also cause some negative reactions, especially when you're having a brilliantly quirky wedding. You know if it's not someone's scene that they'll tell you that! Ignore them. it's your day, do it your way.
I guess what I'm trying to say is that when you're a wonderfully alternative couple, you'll most likely get some not so wonderful feedback. You just need to ignore it & carry on creating a day that you & your partner will cherish memories of forever.
Get in touch with me today on email@example.com so we can have a chat about how I can help you create the most amazing day. Bxx
It's now peak wedding season for me & I am in my element!! Every weekend is a different wedding or event, sometimes 2 or 3 days in a row, & I am ridiculously excited by each one. Every one has its own theme & approach, the little details setting each apart from the next.
This months upcoming events are R+J's wedding on Saturday 6 July, K+A's wedding on 20th July, J's wedding on 28th July.
I also have photoshoots on 10th July & 15th July with around 20 suppliers on 2 very different themes.
Then I have family time with the boys, PLUS of course getting in enough rest that my chronic illness doesn't stop me in my tracks (again!)
It's a tough balance, work life against family life, plus working whilst ill, but this is the job I trained for. This is the job I ADORE. This is my dream job & while I might be slower on my feet than I used to be, I think I'm doing OK. It's a challenge, & one I'm happy to face head on. Let's do this!
What does July hold for you? Are weddings on YOUR calendar? Please do share your excitement here! Bxx
As a wedding planner, I get to see SO many fun & exciting approaches to weddings & couples never cease to amaze me in their creativity! There is no limit on the theme you choose for your wedding, so what are YOU going for?
Perhaps you've chosen a colour scheme & everything is tied in with that, from flowers to chair bows to bridesmaids dresses. How pretty is that gonna look?! Love it!
Or perhaps you've decided to really go to town & let your personality shine through. From festival weddings with ribbons & flamingos, to gothic weddings accented by skulls & black roses, to colourful 50s Rockabilly... Then there's weddings based on your favourite film or TV show, such as roaring 20s Peaky Blinders or Lord of the Rings.
What I'm trying to say is it's your day so you need to do things YOUR way. Too many people lose sight of what matters on their wedding day - it's the marriage of 2 people who love each other, & no-one but they can say how their wedding day should be done.
If you'd like help with sourcing suppliers to create YOUR dream wedding day then pop me a line. I guarantee I have the perfect match for you. Until then, happy planning! Bxx
It's OK, deep breath - I'm here to help.
First of all, DON’T PANIC! It's not a problem. I've listed here a few things that haven't gone to plan at recent weddings I've been involved in, & the ways in which they were dealt. Now of course, I'm in no way trivialising your feelings & your need for it all to be perfect, I'm just pointing out that there are quick & simple solutions for the issues. Anything else you think of or are worried about, please do let me know, let's work on them together. Bxx
It’s raining? Traditionally rain on your big day is lucky! It also provides some great atmospheric wedding photos. Why not provide some personalised umbrellas if you’re getting married outdoors? And don't forget some spare wellies too, especically important if your wedding is in a garden, farm or woodland.
Perhaps some of the finer details are the wrong colour - maybe the cake ribbon, the floral centre pieces or chair sashes? Only you will notice these changes. Honestly! Don’t let it spoil your day, enjoy yourself & follow up with the relevant supplier afterwards to discuss if applicable compensation.
Has a family member or friend made too much of the bar? A quiet word with your wedding planner or venue manager & they will move them to a side room with a strong coffee, & gentle coercion to sober up.
Depending on what's gone wrong, the chances are that the guests won't notice, so it's not worth worrying yourself about.
Whatever you think is a problem, it's NOT insurmountable. As long as there's you & your partner, promising your best to each other, then everything else is extra.
This is possibly the point to once again reiterate the importance of employing a wedding planner. With their help, all these hiccups can be dealt with without you even noticing. Some venues have a coordinator included in your package but it's still advisable to use an independent planner too, who can be there from the start of your planning process & understand the vision that you have for your wedding day.
This is especially important when your wedding is more styled & themed, with more elements to tie in together. Something to think about, right? Bxx
I'm a qualified wedding planner dedicated to designing & creating weddings for alternative couples. Because everyone deserves a wedding as unique as they are