OK so I look like I've not a care in the world here, but let me tell you - I've been where you are, with the frustrations of planning a quirky wedding.
When I got married in 2006, I arranged & designed the day how I & my husband wanted it to be. Some elements were more traditional (such as colour schemes), however other elements we wanted to inject our personalities into (including food, believe it or not we were one of the first couples to have sausage & mash for our wedding breakfast instead of traditional chicken or fish - it was LUSH!).
Sadly, some of our choices were met with raised eyebrows & sniffs of disdain by members of our family. In fact, we didn't get married in the venue that we wanted, because we were told in no uncertain terms, that some family members wouldn't travel that far (we had picked a beautiful hotel on the edge of Ullswater in the Lake District & at the time, lived in Hertfordshire).
So instead we compromised, Mr M found a beautiful barn in Burnham Beeches near Windsor, & we continued to arrange a day that we felt reflected our personalities.
Friends & family provided various elements, & we even chose every song that the DJ played (although now, having worked in the industry, I feel I should apologise to him for being SO controlling and effectively telling him how to do his job haha!) Even now, people will talk of our wedding and how relaxed it was.
No drama, no fuss, just good times.
Hindsight is a wonderful thing. While my wedding day was amazing, I can't help but have regrets that my original plans were shelved.
I don't want this to happen to you! It's your wedding day, and it should be done your way. Bugger what anyone else thinks, if it makes you happy then do it.
But just HOW do you do that? How do you put together a wedding that's full of your personality, full of your passions, full of love, full of your chosen guests, while trying to continue working & living your life?
The answer is simple - you speak to me.
I gained my wedding planning qualifications 5 years ago & have since helped countless couples, as well as winning an award for my services (4 times nominated, just a bit proud!).
I am passionate about creating & designing alternative weddings for couples looking for a stress-free and unique wedding. Because every couple deserves a wedding as unique as they are. So come on, what you waiting for? Let's get our heads together & create a day as unique as YOU are. Drop me an email on email@example.com & you won't regret it.
It's OK, deep breath - I'm here to help.
First of all, DON’T PANIC! It's not a problem. I've listed here a few things that haven't gone to plan at recent weddings I've been involved in, & the ways in which they were dealt. Now of course, I'm in no way trivialising your feelings & your need for it all to be perfect, I'm just pointing out that there are quick & simple solutions for the issues. Anything else you think of or are worried about, please do let me know, let's work on them together. Bxx
It’s raining? Traditionally rain on your big day is lucky! It also provides some great atmospheric wedding photos. Why not provide some personalised umbrellas if you’re getting married outdoors? And don't forget some spare wellies too, especically important if your wedding is in a garden, farm or woodland.
Perhaps some of the finer details are the wrong colour - maybe the cake ribbon, the floral centre pieces or chair sashes? Only you will notice these changes. Honestly! Don’t let it spoil your day, enjoy yourself & follow up with the relevant supplier afterwards to discuss if applicable compensation.
Has a family member or friend made too much of the bar? A quiet word with your wedding planner or venue manager & they will move them to a side room with a strong coffee, & gentle coercion to sober up.
Depending on what's gone wrong, the chances are that the guests won't notice, so it's not worth worrying yourself about.
Whatever you think is a problem, it's NOT insurmountable. As long as there's you & your partner, promising your best to each other, then everything else is extra.
This is possibly the point to once again reiterate the importance of employing a wedding planner. With their help, all these hiccups can be dealt with without you even noticing. Some venues have a coordinator included in your package but it's still advisable to use an independent planner too, who can be there from the start of your planning process & understand the vision that you have for your wedding day.
This is especially important when your wedding is more styled & themed, with more elements to tie in together. Something to think about, right? Bxx
I'm a qualified wedding planner dedicated to designing & creating weddings for alternative couples. Because everyone deserves a wedding as unique as they are