I've said it countless times before but... it's YOUR big day, so you should be planning things your way. But I do appreciate that's easier said than done!
Every person wants to be the one to give you that idea that you'd not yet considered, & to get a mention or credit on your wedding day. Bless their cotton socks for trying to help!
I guess it's a bit like when you're a new parent, & everyone has some "useful" (yep, I used the bunny ears) advice & opinions to pass on. Just nod & say thanks. Keep in mind that your wedding day is a representation of you & your other half. If a well meaning family member, friend or colleague has a nugget of information to impart, then that's nice, but you DON'T need to take it & use it if you don't want to.
You could say "thanks but that doesn't fit with our vision of our wedding. It's a great idea though!" How diplomatic am I??
As a planner, one of the most useful services that I provide is the admin (or, as it's affectionately known, wedmin). I respond to emails & messages on the detail of your wedding day. This takes a lot of pressure off you as, let's face it, you should be enjoying this part of your engagement - not stuck answering questions on why you chose this colour scheme & wouldn't such-and-such other theme suit better.
Another place you may find unsolicited advice is online wedding forums & Facebook wedding groups. In theory, & in fact the majority of the time, these are great places to bounce ideas around & have a semi-anonymous rant about the frustrations of planning a wedding. But they can also cause some negative reactions, especially when you're having a brilliantly quirky wedding. You know if it's not someone's scene that they'll tell you that! Ignore them. it's your day, do it your way.
I guess what I'm trying to say is that when you're a wonderfully alternative couple, you'll most likely get some not so wonderful feedback. You just need to ignore it & carry on creating a day that you & your partner will cherish memories of forever.
Get in touch with me today on email@example.com so we can have a chat about how I can help you create the most amazing day. Bxx
It's now peak wedding season for me & I am in my element!! Every weekend is a different wedding or event, sometimes 2 or 3 days in a row, & I am ridiculously excited by each one. Every one has its own theme & approach, the little details setting each apart from the next.
This months upcoming events are R+J's wedding on Saturday 6 July, K+A's wedding on 20th July, J's wedding on 28th July.
I also have photoshoots on 10th July & 15th July with around 20 suppliers on 2 very different themes.
Then I have family time with the boys, PLUS of course getting in enough rest that my chronic illness doesn't stop me in my tracks (again!)
It's a tough balance, work life against family life, plus working whilst ill, but this is the job I trained for. This is the job I ADORE. This is my dream job & while I might be slower on my feet than I used to be, I think I'm doing OK. It's a challenge, & one I'm happy to face head on. Let's do this!
What does July hold for you? Are weddings on YOUR calendar? Please do share your excitement here! Bxx
As a wedding planner, I get to see SO many fun & exciting approaches to weddings & couples never cease to amaze me in their creativity! There is no limit on the theme you choose for your wedding, so what are YOU going for?
Perhaps you've chosen a colour scheme & everything is tied in with that, from flowers to chair bows to bridesmaids dresses. How pretty is that gonna look?! Love it!
Or perhaps you've decided to really go to town & let your personality shine through. From festival weddings with ribbons & flamingos, to gothic weddings accented by skulls & black roses, to colourful 50s Rockabilly... Then there's weddings based on your favourite film or TV show, such as roaring 20s Peaky Blinders or Lord of the Rings.
What I'm trying to say is it's your day so you need to do things YOUR way. Too many people lose sight of what matters on their wedding day - it's the marriage of 2 people who love each other, & no-one but they can say how their wedding day should be done.
If you'd like help with sourcing suppliers to create YOUR dream wedding day then pop me a line. I guarantee I have the perfect match for you. Until then, happy planning! Bxx
It's OK, deep breath - I'm here to help.
First of all, DON’T PANIC! It's not a problem. I've listed here a few things that haven't gone to plan at recent weddings I've been involved in, & the ways in which they were dealt. Now of course, I'm in no way trivialising your feelings & your need for it all to be perfect, I'm just pointing out that there are quick & simple solutions for the issues. Anything else you think of or are worried about, please do let me know, let's work on them together. Bxx
It’s raining? Traditionally rain on your big day is lucky! It also provides some great atmospheric wedding photos. Why not provide some personalised umbrellas if you’re getting married outdoors? And don't forget some spare wellies too, especically important if your wedding is in a garden, farm or woodland.
Perhaps some of the finer details are the wrong colour - maybe the cake ribbon, the floral centre pieces or chair sashes? Only you will notice these changes. Honestly! Don’t let it spoil your day, enjoy yourself & follow up with the relevant supplier afterwards to discuss if applicable compensation.
Has a family member or friend made too much of the bar? A quiet word with your wedding planner or venue manager & they will move them to a side room with a strong coffee, & gentle coercion to sober up.
Depending on what's gone wrong, the chances are that the guests won't notice, so it's not worth worrying yourself about.
Whatever you think is a problem, it's NOT insurmountable. As long as there's you & your partner, promising your best to each other, then everything else is extra.
This is possibly the point to once again reiterate the importance of employing a wedding planner. With their help, all these hiccups can be dealt with without you even noticing. Some venues have a coordinator included in your package but it's still advisable to use an independent planner too, who can be there from the start of your planning process & understand the vision that you have for your wedding day.
This is especially important when your wedding is more styled & themed, with more elements to tie in together. Something to think about, right? Bxx
Now, as a qualified wedding planner I may be a little biased on this subject! However you can't deny the value & importance of employing the services of a wedding planner. Below I've tried to outline a few of the reasons why we're so important to your big day, but believe me there's much more too. Let me know what you think?
I will take the stress off your shoulders, taking on the responsibility of scheduling meetings with wedding suppliers, day to day arrangements, leaving you free to enjoy your engagement
Talking of chasing people, still waiting on answers from Aunty Joan or your work friend Neil? Are you fed up of asking them whether or not they're attending? Here's where your I can come into my own. With patience & time on my side, those RSVPs will soon be received.
Budgeting & scheduling skills run through my veins. I *love* lists, being organised & will happily create budgets & timelines for you, so that you know what should be happening at any time. It doesn't matter how tight or fluid your budget, I can help you realise your perfect day without breaking the bank (or a sweat!) I have it covered for you.
Insider knowledge & access to tried & trusted wedding suppliers. OK hear me out on this one. I admit, I have favourite suppliers that I work with time and again, but I never get commission from any that I recommend to you. I only work closely with people whose businesses provide the best possible service &, well, who are decent people! No attitude, no fuss, just amazing wedding services.
Communication with your wedding suppliers - you don't have the time to be speaking to 15 different wedding suppliers in a week. You have more important things to do, like work & keep up with friends & family! Give the communication over to me, I'll still keep you in the loop but not trouble you with little admin details.
Introducing you to some new & original ideas, personal to YOU. Every couple wants their wedding to be unique, so they all read the same magazines & blogs & websites for ideas. Time to break the habit, & get myself on the case. With my experience in the industry, I guarantee I will have original ideas just for you - anything from outstanding photography shots, to unique floral ideas, & more.
Solutions to tricky situations - What are you supposed to do if your mum and mother-in-law disagree about hen party details? How much should you ask your bridesmaids to pay for their dresses? When should you send out your save-the-dates? I can safely say I've seen it all, so will be able to guide you through any tricky situations that arise during the preparations for your wedding day.
Invaluable assistance on your big day - right this is the BIG one, which is obviously why I've left it until last to address! A wedding planner is, as far as I'm concerned, essential to your big day. If any issues arise during the ceremony or reception, I'll be the first one on the scene, so you won't need to worry about anything except enjoying your special day with loved ones. You don't need to worry about logistics or timings or queries from suppliers - I have it covered, while you have a perfect wedding day.
Beckie is a qualified wedding planner, with a passion for assisting overwhelmed couples to achieve their perfect wedding day.